There was an old woman who lived in a shoe...

Don't you know what causes that?!

You really have your hands full!

Exactly how many do you have?

You know there's a way to prevent that right?

Don't you have a TV?

You are so brave!

You FINALLY got your GIRL!!

Boy, you deserve that girl after all those BOYS!!!

Yes, these are all real comments and questions that people have said to me. Almost always in front of my children. So, to answer all of them quickly, here we go:

We do know what causes that.

Yes, my hands are full, but so is my heart!

I have 6 living children, I have had 4 miscarriages. 

We do know how to prevent them, we choose not to.

We do have a TV, we don't have cable.

I am not brave. I have faith.

I did have a precious girl, but that is not the reason that I continue to have children.

I don't deserve any of my children. Thank you Jesus for NOT giving me what I deserve!!


This is my favorite funny video to watch when I think about the ridiculous things people can say:

We choose to believe the Lord when
He says this in Psalm 127!

We choose to live by God's promises, and that includes His promise to bless us with children! We choose to believe that children are a gift and a blessing. Yes, these blessings give us a run for our money some days, but we know that if we are faithful to raise them in "the discipline and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4) that God will use our trials to grow and sanctify US into the parents and disciples He can use for His purposes and glory! 

"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials

of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith

produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect,

that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing...

Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he

has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which

God has promised to those who love Him."

-James 1:2-4,12

We can be joyful in our trials, knowing that Jesus is
refining us, and ridding us of  ourselves!

When we become overwhelmed at our task, we remember that we are not left alone to raise godly children who want to give their lives up for Christ. If this was solely up to us we would surely fail! The thought of where my children are now spiritually in relation to where they need to be someday is too much to handle on our own! We trust that God is working in them as we point them to Him, all the while giving us much grace for the journey! We also know that He is the strength we need for this duty! 

For those of you who knew me well before our move, you know that I was the mom who loved sending my kids off to school for the day. I loved sending the kids off to Grandma's and Nana's for the weekend. I was the wife who was calling my husband everyday and saying "When will you be home??" and "I'm DONE!!" Friends, this is NOT what the Lord has for us in child-rearing. I feel confident that accepting God's gift of children into our families and then complaining about those very gifts is sinful. It is selfishness at its very core. I know that the Lord has used my children to weed out my selfishness and He has replaced it with selflessness. Do I still have my moments where I need a break? Yes!! But, I try to never make my children feel like they are a burden to me. After all, they did not ask to be born, I invited them here! To expect them to fit into my life around my other priorities is selfish. I discovered that I must change my priorities! 

I am now, through the grace of God, the mom who can't imagine being away from my kids for a full school day, or a full weekend!! I would miss them so much! Now that I have put my selfish desires to the side and am focused on my kids, I actually like them! The silliness that once got on my nerves now gives me joy! I love the young men my boys are becoming!! And I now have the focus to help focus them on things ABOVE! Thank you Jesus!!

I want to be this kind of woman!! Why?